In the opening scene of the 1972 classic, The Godfather, Don Corleone (The Godfather) and Bonasera (the undertaker) engage in a conversation around favors. Bonasera desires justice to be served on the young men who assaulted his daughter. After some discussion, Don Corleone agrees to punish the guilty and in return, he informs Bonasera, “Someday, and that day may never come, I’ll call upon you to do a service for me.”
This famous scene delivers a powerful lesson about networking etiquette. Ignore the type of ‘service’ that Don Corleone is willing to provide – instead, focus on the foundation of the agreement. One individual is willing to assist another who is in need, and in return an offer is made to reciprocate in the future. This willingness to reciprocate is vitally important to one’s success in networking.
In my networking efforts, I always offer at the end of the conversation or email, “If I can be of assistance to you, I would be happy to repay the kindness you have extended me.” Most of the time, as the Godfather indicated, “…that day may never come”, though I know individuals have appreciated the offer of assistance should they need me.
Some unemployed individuals, young alumni, or current students will often question what they can offer to a networking contact. The most common requests I have heard made by a networking contact to a mentee, are:
- Helping in staffing an alumni club/charity event
- Meeting with someone in the future who is in the job search to relay strategies/advice
- Speaking with a son/daughter about college/Notre Dame (especially true for students who are networking with alumni)
The other day I met with a young man who swam for Notre Dame. I helped him with a resume, gave him tips on networking, provided access to online resources, etc. – and at the end of the meeting, I asked him for tips on swimming as I have begun to swim as part of an exercise routine. He was able to assist me with a need (improving my swimming technique) in an area where he had expertise. You never know how you may be able to provide a “service” for someone in need – as long as you are willing to reciprocate with an offer of assistance in the future, it is an offer that even Don Corleone couldn’t refuse!